Stay or Go Decision Guide

Stop trying to answer the entire relationship in one question.

The Stay or Go Decision Guide breaks the decision into specific observations across five areas, then helps you think through what those patterns mean to you.

The guide doesn't choose for you. It gives you a clearer set of information to work with.

25 questions across five categories.

RESPECTBoundaries, communication, contempt, apologies and behavior.

GROWTHGoals, development, honesty and willingness to learn.

SAFETY & TRUSTReliability, autonomy, emotional safety and repair.

COMPATIBILITYValues, expectations, lifestyle and future plans.

EFFORTReciprocity, follow-through and shared responsibility.

The score is information, not a verdict.

You'll score each category separately so a serious concern doesn't disappear inside one overall average.

Then the branching decision guide asks about persistence, communication, willingness to change, boundaries, trust, and whether both people are participating in repair.

Useful whichever direction you choose.

If You Stay

Define what needs work, clarify boundaries, communicate the issues, agree on observable actions, and choose a date to review whether the pattern is actually changing.

If You Go

Record why you made the decision, think through logistics, decide on contact boundaries, identify support, and make a practical first-week plan.

Some situations should not be reduced to a score.

Safety note: Physical violence, sexual coercion, threats, stalking, intimidation, forced isolation, financial control, or fear for your safety require a different level of attention. Do not use a relationship score to minimize danger. Seek appropriate local professional, domestic-violence, or emergency support when needed.

Put the decision on paper.

Twenty-five answers. Five categories. Clarifying questions. Practical next steps. Use the guide to organize what you're seeing and make your own decision.

Get the Stay or Go Decision Guide for $7

Frequently Asked Questions

Will the score tell me whether to leave?

No. The score organizes observations. It is not a verdict or substitute for your judgment.

What if one category scores much lower?

The guide encourages you to examine categories individually rather than relying only on an overall total.

Does it cover ordinary relationship problems?

Yes. It includes guidance for distinguishing normal friction from persistent patterns and more serious warning signs.

What if there is abuse or I am afraid?

Do not rely on the audit to assess immediate safety. Seek appropriate local support or emergency help depending on the situation.

Is this therapy or professional advice?

No. It is a self-reflection and decision-organization tool.